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i will fix you

December 1, 2011

when you’re a parent, your world revolves around caring for your kids. you pick them up when they fall. wipe their tears when they cry. hold them close when they’re scared. raise them up when they're down. hold their hand. heal their heart.

it seems an awfully imbalanced relationship—a one way street of complete dependency.

but then i’m reminded how far from the truth that is.

recently i lost a friend unexpectedly. when the news sunk in, there was sadness. anger at the inexplicable circumstances. the inability to do anything about it. but a simple hug from two sweet little boys was comfort. perspective. love. support.

i was restored.

ever notice how, when something sad happens, people always say “go hug your kids today.” what is that all about? well, as much as you give the world to them, your kids give it right back to you in return. they are walking, talking, giggling reminders of what truly matters.

In family, life Tags defining moments in life, loss
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love and loss

March 23, 2011

i’ve noticed a running theme in many of my conversations as of late. it’s about loss. of a loved one. of a pet. of a relationship that went sour. of a friendship that somehow faltered. of a memory that simply faded over time.

losing something cherished leaves a cavernous void. questions about why. anger about how. doubts about whether things will ever be the same.

from the pain comes grieving. and ultimately, with time, healing. but try as we might to wish for it, the truth is, with loss, things won’t. ever. be. the. same.

so what’s the use in putting yourself out there at all? of extending a hand. or making a connection. taking a risk. giving everything you have—with no guarantees.

the answer lies in the beauty you experienced in the moment. the lessons you learned the process. the realization that, even if you have lost them, you are forever changed because they were in your life.

if you’ve ever seen shadowlands, it’s a heart-wrenching story about c.s. lewis, author of the narnia books. in the movie, lewis (played by anthony hopkins) lives a cloistered, intellectual life, teaching at oxford and living a solitary existence that is devoid of the risk of emotional connection. then a poet and fan named joy gresham (debra winger) comes into his life and turns his world upside down. he unexpectedly falls in love…then tragically faces loss.

feeling alive. sharing joy. experiencing love—and even pain—is infinitely better than the absence of it.

"why love if losing hurts so much? i have no answers any more. only the life i have lived. twice in that life i've been given the choice: as a boy and as a man. the boy chose safety, the man chooses suffering. the pain now is part of the happiness then. that's the deal." – c.s. lewis in shadowlands

In life Tags loss, love, silver linings
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